Fifty Patterns for Making Sense

 

18.  Optimize goals

 

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Always help others get what they need from interactions with you.

 

 

 

   
 

According to the biologist Gregory Bateson, there is no maximization in biology, there is only optimization.  It is alien to life itself tomaximize values.  It is the nature of life to optimize values.

What that means is that with living things such as people and organizations, you can only gain by increasing a value up to a certain point and then you lose by further increases.  Like many foods, a small amount is good, a greater amount may be wonderful, but too miuch is poisonous to the system.

This is the biological basis for the Tit for Tat pattern.  Never try to maximize your winning.  Only try to tie others.  Be sure you get what you need in the long run but don't worry about short-term 'losses'.  The best way to be sure you are not maximizing values (since we have been trained to thoroughly to always try to do that) is to pay close attention to what others are trying to get out of a situation and TO HELP THEM GET IT.

 

   
   
 

In tit for tat (16) you are concerned about the long haul.  If you maximize your win you may have also maximized the other's loss.  Remember that you may have convergent agendas (5).  Enjoy the humanity (50) especially where you do not see the short-range profitability of doing so.

 

   
 

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