So much of our
organizational communication takes place across desks,
face-to-face, that we forget how much better it feels to stand
shoulder-to-shoulder at the water cooler or at a window
looking away from each other while we talk. The
face-to-face posture is a posture of confrontation and should
not be used unless confrontation is what you really intend.
There are many ways to
reorganize your space for oblique communication. Sit on
the same side of the table while you examine plans or other
documents. That will give you an oblique position and
also allow you both to see the relevant materials. A
sofa with a coffee table can have the same effect. In
fact, that may be one reason why bars are so successful in
loosening up conversational inhibitions. Talking while
you walk is one of the best ways to put two people into a good
position for talk because it combines oblique position with
exercise.
